Mother's Day

For Mother’s Day, we sat down with these 2 Bandit mamas to hear more about balancing their careers with being a mom.

Read their interviews below!

 

Harper Smith // Photographer and Mother of Kitt, age 2

@harpersmithphoto

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What moment did you feel like a Mother for the first time?

That is a really complex question...if I'm to be honest....I always felt like one from the moment Kitt was born, but lately since he has become more independent and communicative... a real human to human bond has began to form, and i feel the responsibility now more than ever. he is his own person and he looks to me for guidance and love and comfort, which is the most incredible honor.

What charity do you want us to donate to and why?
PKD Foundation. My dad and brother suffer from PKD (kidney disease). I donated a kidney to my dad.

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How do you manage work life balance being a mama?

You make it sound as if I have figured it out? hahaha. Two words....flexibility and patience.

Any future advice to future mother's out there?

Let your kids get dirty. Don't be afraid to risk your sanity. Let them be part of the journey. They will be your greatest teacher.

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Amy Soderlind // Stylist, Mother of Myles and Sol, 4 years old and 8 months old.

@asoderlind

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What moment did you feel like a Mother for the first time?

After 8 hrs of birth with Myles- that first moment he looked at us, smirked, and fell asleep on my chest. I became complete instantly- I never knew a love so intense and instant could exist. For months i tried to love this little stranger growing inside, but it wasn't until I saw him for that first time that I understood what a Mother was. This right here, this is my forever person. No matter the matter, complete and utter unconditional fierce love.

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What charity do you want us to donate to and why?

Undocu Fund

Why? if WE (supported and safe in our community) felt the trauma and unsettled nature that fire brought... can you imagine not being in the position to even feel safe in a shelter? Reach out for help? Its unfathomable. Many of these people have helped build Sonoma County into the rich wine country that it is... they need our support and love more than ever.

 

Can you tell us about the Sonoma Fire and how you are getting through it?

I was 4 weeks post pardum when the Tubbs Fire took our home. I was still in that hazed over, healing body, looking at my new baby thinking “whooo are you and what the hell just happened?” .... I was bliss and confusion wrapped into one bed ridden happy mess.

My Love Lauren happened to wake ... I still believe that our 150 year old farmhouse woke him up. It was her worn in cracks and thin aged walls that gave us enough time- time to get our two boys, dog, cat and nothing else. What followed were months of healing, processing, and pushing forward.

What i realized right after that fire came? Children are a f*ckin gift from god.

There is no dwelling in the past- lamenting- poor me moments- nope. “How bout tomorrow? What’s that look like?”

Myles was my warrior- i can’t tell you how many times i looked at him , listened to his words- and thought... “Wait.... are you.... my great grandfather?!” Couldn’t believe his insight and wisdom at just 3 years old. We suddenly were surrounded by the most INCREDIBLE community of people- near and far... and were able to support and give to families with our sudden abundance of gifts.

How did we get through it? Love for one another... an understanding that life is what we live for- things represent memories and more memories will surely come. Family of friends... women I’ve never met, that live in other countries- writing me long letters of strength and encouragement. The list goes on.... it was our community that made the unimaginable... so very manageable.

We are still in temporary housing till August... but this home, however temporary, has brought so much peace and stability to us and our children. Praying we get to stay longer!

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How do you manage work life balance being a mama?

I'm not sure I do!

I ask myself this everyday. I think that’s the key to “balance” with everything in your life. With balance comes getting off balance, and reminding yourself that first and foremost- it’s normal to feel crazy, off kilter and confused. Everyday I adjust to getting back in balance, a re-check.... not some easy continuous flow. Some days i feel like i can barely brush my own damn teeth- others i feel unstoppable in the amount i can achieve. Mothers with careers will always feel torn in two different spheres... at work we are missing the "moments" we can never get back (first steps, first taste of avocado, first belly laugh)... at home, we can often feel stuck in groundhog day, and feeling like we aren't accomplishing real sh*t (though raising a human is quite possibly the hardest job... ever). Everyday I wake up and remind myself to be present in whatever my tasks are.... do them well with intention... and every moment you get to be with your child, enjoy every fucking second of it. They are our future... what greater honor to have than bringing them up right.

 

Any future advice to future mother's out there?

Do your best. That's all you can do. Kids don't care about perfection.... They like it messy and free and full of laughter and lessons. Allow them to teach you... surround yourself with a great support system, and nothing is impossible. They will admire you for working hard and sticking to your dreams. Get on the floor... roll around... play legos, make forts.... dance together. Have fun. You only have this time for a blink of an eye. You'll never look back, on your last dying days and think... "shouldn't have spent so much time with my children". Family is everything.

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